STuFfeD: self-care 101

Life can portray fiction. Life can emulate a movie, a show. Interpreting circumstances, situations, and events through categorical lenses can help one organize information. Attaching definitions to particular ‘roles’ and ‘rules’ supports our subconscious stroll through what is perceived to be ‘everyday life’. The roles and rules change as the segments change. What happens when we stop being aware of the story we tell and the meaning we place on our perception of ‘context’?

Glennon did not buy it. She looked into the cheetah’s eyes – the cheetah was born to be a cheetah. Of course, Glennon tells the story with so much force that you’re bawling from your toes up – a vomit. Whether it is because you match Glennon’s intensity (which is why I’m good with about 10 minutes at a time), or because you resonate with the stupidity of taming a cheetah, or maybe it’s because the idea of wild and untamed living gets your attention. Passion. Full expression of the talents, skills, and abilities that live inside of you.We can live the unexamined no. The unexamined no most likely has a large fanbase. A majority, which allows the privilege of ‘no’ to be socially acceptable. Status quo.

Because I caught myself in the momentum of this idea when we ‘push against’ something we create more of it, I was able to turn it toward me. Leading up to this realization, I assumed I was innocent. It was those in charge responsible for the stuck and powerless energy I was experiencing.

I wonder about Candi growing up. I wonder if when Candi grew up she interpreted her environment and experiences in a way that allowed for a sense of ‘what do I have to lose?’; whereas another person in another set of circumstances and experiences may unknowingly grow from a sense of ‘I have everything to lose.’

I am working on coming up through the middle and being curious about ‘the other side’ when it comes to racial tension and political disruption. I found myself strongly leaning to a side and pushing against another side. I also found myself quite ignorant and uninformed about topics that I have had access and opportunities to learn more about, but chose not to. I am choosing differently now.

When we practice self-awareness we may notice observable outcomes that we can translate with our physical senses as what is perceived to be real time. We can also notice how we are responding to what we observe. Do we have a choice in how we respond? Do we have a choice in how we perceive what is happening in real time? Does having a desired outcome support the way we experience ‘real time’?

When you notice the ‘blurt’ you can flip the blurt. This is the difference between looping into a limiting script that keeps you stuck and spinning in ‘same’, and merging into the script you are writing as you tell a story that resonates with the desires of your heart.

Considering the amount of energy it takes to think and feel one way on the inside and express yourself in opposition DAILY, can you recognize how this can make someone not well (sick)? Whether it is anxiety, depression, headaches, anger, addiction, isolation, etc. Can you see how living in opposition of your truth is simply not healthy? It’s not whole. It’s split.

When we can relax our response we integrate mind, body, heart, spirit – we access the whole of who we are. Our minds become more clear, ideas open up to us, our natural instinct is to problem solve and assume a broader perspective exists even if it isn’t readily apparent.